What are you expected to be? Really, think about that for just a moment. Women are sort of awesome (let’s be honest, men would be a hot mess without us) but I think because we ARE so awesome, sometimes we end up with some pretty messed up expectations for ourselves. Those expectations can be placed on us from a wide variety of sources. To name a few:
…and that’s the short list. Each one of those things or people put certain expectations on us. Some are wonderful & healthy! Some – not so much. The older I get (and frankly the more technologically advanced life gets) the more I see women being bogged down in unrealistic expectations. There’s a “mold” that we see the above listed places have formed for us and we are SQUEEZING to fit into that mold! But there is good news. “Yet you, LORD, are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand.” (Isaiah 64:8).
God created us each as unique pieces. Imagine a potter, sitting at the wheel, creating his next masterpiece. His hands are covered in messy clay as he perfectly guides them across the wet substance to eventually form a beautiful and ONE OF A KIND work of art. Society is clearly missing out on this little tidbit. We were created, each of us, to be different. Each clay piece LOOKS different & each clay piece can be used more effectively for different things. A bowl doesn’t make the best vase, and vice versa. Each of us were created to be beautiful works of art, with our own set of giftings. I am convinced that when God created us, He did it with the anticipation of watching us live vibrant full lives; not those in which we are bogged down by false standards to live by and crazy expectations. I believe that God wants to show each of us the unique traits He has placed within us that He wants to see us flourish in and enjoy. I’m much more interested in what my Creator has to say about who I am and what I should do than anyone else.
For myself, I’m in a constant struggle of shaking off these unrealistic expectations and accepting fully who God has made me to be… but of course, I am not perfect. Along with that struggle comes guilt & frustration at times. Thankfully, I can remind myself that I have God’s grace to sustain me. Choosing to go against the grain isn’t easy, but the freedom found in being content in who God made us each to be is pretty incredible. We may ruffle some feathers in the process of breaking out of that mold, but as a very wise woman once said: “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” – Helen Keller
Dare to be different. To quiet those voices that tell us who we are to be, how we are to act, what we are to wear… and choose to listen to the voice that matters.